There are several flaws or problems with Alcoholics Anonymous. First and foremost is that it is an incomplete approach to alcoholism. There is no denying that it does have many good benefits that are helpful to some people, but it is limited to a select few.
It offers emotional support, people you can relate to, a place to go to fill your time and feel connected to others, helps you reconnect with your morals and values which have most often been obliterated by drunkenness, helps break down denial, build a new social life that takes you away from the old places and friends, educates, provides structure and hope and gives people something to hang onto. These are all great aspects, but it does not encompass all that is needed.
Nourishing a rich spiritual life is an important component of
maintaining long-term sobriety, but it is not the only component and it
does not have to include a higher power. People who don't believe in God
or follow a spiritual path can still find sobriety by addressing their
biochemical issues. Not only that, it does not address the biochemical
roots of addiction, which is why relapse is so common.
The other
point of issue with the spiritual/religious aspect in Alcoholics
Anonymous, is that AA comes very close to being it's own religion. It
tends to be a little punitive, rigid and shaming and tries to brainwash
the individual into believing everything they say is true and abiding by
their rules. It encourages powerlessness, which can be
counterproductive. Regardless of how defiantly they deny it, AA is a
religious program.
Spirituality is about the relationship you have with your
core self and the world around you and finding meaning and purpose in
your life, while religion is about beliefs and practices that involve
God or a higher power. AA and the 12 steps clearly fall under the
religion category.
Spirituality is a very personal,
individualized experience. People get very mixed up and think of
religion and spirituality as one. Being spiritual does not necessarily
have anything to do with religion or God, although religion tries to
make you believe they are one in the same.
I don't believe in a
"higher power" and yet consider myself a deeply spiritual person. My
spiritual connection and fulfillment is found in communing with nature,
meditation, writing and my relationship with self and others.
Living
a spiritual life does not have to include a relationship with a higher
power and one does not have to embrace the whole powerlessness concept.
We are not powerless over addiction. If the alcoholic addresses the biochemical
roots of their alcoholism, they are empowered
to take control of their recovery path.
There is nothing
fundamentally wrong with using spirituality to assist in recovery of any
illness, as a matter of fact, it is an essential component of my life,
but not many people can make a full recovery with spirituality alone
because the real cause of addiction is not addressed. Additionally, not
everyone can embrace this concept. Many people with alcoholism are too
damaged physically and emotionally to begin working on their spiritual
life, and some people are uncomfortable with the whole
spiritual/religious aspect of AA, and other people don't believe in God.
Even those individuals who already have strong religious or
spiritual beliefs most often do not succeed in long-term sobriety, which
leads us to one of the most important problems with Alcoholics
Anonymous; the success rate.
The biggest flaw with Alcoholics Anonymous is that it has a very low
success rate for long-term sobriety. Accurate statistics are hard to
come by because of many factors, such as anonymity and dishonesty, but
most studies reveal that it only has about a 2.5 percent success rate
for over 5 years of sobriety. Some statistics have it as low as .01
percent.
Putting all statistics aside, one only needs to ask
around any Alcoholics Anonymous meeting to clearly see what the
statistics are. At any given meeting, at any given time, most people
that are present are newcomers. Membership usually consists of people
who have only a day sober or a few days or weeks. There are a few
people who have 90 days or 120 and maybe 1 or 2 people with 6 months or
one year. Depending on the size of the meeting, there may be one, or if
you're really lucky two old timers, someone with more than 5 years.
Old timers are far and few between.
Most alcoholics do not
recover from their condition; they die. Those who do recover using a 12
step program fight constant cravings to drink
and suffer with a variety of other symptoms like irritability, anxiety,
tension, fatigue and depression that has a deep impact on the quality of
their life and forces them to be dependent upon attending Alcoholics
Anonymous (AA) meetings the rest of their life.
Staying sober is
a constant battle and they continue to be addicted to a variety of
other substances and activities like sugar, caffeine, carbs, sex and
cigarettes. Even Bill Wilson (aka Bill W.),the founder of
Alcoholics Anonymous, was plagued with symptoms like depression and
fatigue and remained an incurable addict in more ways than one until the
day he died. It is not well known information, but the infamous Bill
Wilson was severely addicted to nicotine, caffeine and sex. His, so
called divinely guided messages from God, were actually the result of
hallucinations, sexual obsession and shame.
Additionally, we’re
talking about long-term sobriety, not short-term. Sure, a good deal of
people can get a few months of sobriety or a year under their belt with
some serious white knuckling, but in the overall picture of life, one
year is not a long time. That does not constitute long-term, stable
sobriety. Not only that, continuously fighting overwhelming cravings to
drink does not constitute success.
Regardless of how defiantly AA
denies it, the bottom line is that AA and all 12 step programs are
religious programs that employ the use of a variety of cult-like
practices that drive many people out the door and back to the bottle.
Another
important fact to keep in mind is that almost all alcoholism treatment
centers are based on the 12 step program and demand that all patients
attend Alcoholics Anonymous. AA meetings are built into the treatment
curriculum and the 12 steps and serenity prayer are recited several
times a day. So that means that treatment centers are having about the
same success rate and failures as AA. Alcoholics Anonymous and
traditional treatment are basically one in the same.
When I was
in rehab more than 24 years ago, our counselor told us that only 3 of us
would still be around in a year. There were approximately 30 of us in
rehab at the time. I remember feeling horrified by that number, but I
was determined I would be one of those three.
Research has found
that spontaneous remission of alcoholism will occur about .05 percent
of the time, so you actually have a better chance of staying sober
without treatment than you do with alcoholics anonymous.
Another
problem with Alcoholics Anonymous is that it promotes dependence on the
program. It replaces one addiction with another, instead of teaching
the individual how to take the skills they learn and apply them to their
life outside the program. They will brain wash you into believing you
must attend Alcoholics Anonymous meetings for the rest of your life or
you'll get drunk. This simply is not true. Once you address the biochemical
issues of alcoholism, your cravings disappear and staying sober is no
longer an issue. You can stop
drinking without AA, but if Alcoholics
Anonymous is used, it should be a transitional phase for the early
phases of recovery, not something you're sentenced to for the rest of
your life.
At this point you may be thinking, wow, this woman is totally against
Alcoholics Anonymous, but that is not the case at all. I would just like
to help you see the limits that it holds and point out how you can
achieve sobriety more successfully, with or without AA.
I was a
chronic, falling off my barstool, disastrous drunk and drug addict when I
found Alcoholics Anonymous and traditional rehab and it saved my life.
I will be forever grateful to my rehab counselor and the people of AA
who helped me get back on my feet.
It was the foundation in my
sobriety, but there came a point when I hit a wall. I could not
continue to maintain my sobriety without moving onward and away from
Alcoholics Anonymous. It gave me what I needed to begin, but it wasn't a
complete picture.
I entered traditional rehabilitation in
1988. I participated in 30 days of in patient treatment and then went
to a halfway house for 3 months. I wanted to stay sober more than
anything in the world and I followed the requirements of the program
thoroughly.
My withdrawal and the aftermath that followed was
intense, severe and prolonged. I lived with extreme levels of anxiety
every minute of every day which escalated into severe anxiety attacks
several times a day and frequent bouts of hyperventilating. I didn't
stop shaking from head to toe until about six months later and even then
it would return from time to time. I simply couldn't function normally.
I completely threw myself into Alcoholics Anonymous - 200%.
For the 90 meetings in 90 days requirement, I attended somewhere between
180 and 270 meetings in 90 days. I was in a meeting 2 or 3 times a day
for the first 90 days. For the next year and a half I continued to go
to meetings 4 or 5 times a week. My entire life was AA and I wouldn't
have been caught dead saying anything against them, because at the time I
didn't think there were any problems with Alcoholics Anonymous.
I
helped set up meetings, tear them down, I chaired meetings, attended AA
dances, dinners, conferences and camp outs. I volunteered my time at
the alcohol clinic to help with new patients. I gave my first lead when
I had 6 months sober and for the next year I was giving leads all over
the tri-county area. Everyone in my life was a member of Alcoholics
Anonymous. I worked the 12 steps forwards and backwards more times than I
could count.
The problem with this picture was this: I was
sober, but I was incredibly miserable physically, psychologically and
cognitively.
A year and a half later and I was still crippled
with daily anxiety and anxiety attacks. I couldn't think clearly,
couldn't remember things, my brain felt fuzzy, I couldn't stay focused
on the task at hand. I was extremely irritable and agitated. It was
very difficult to be a mother. I loved my son deeply who was only 7 at
the time and our relationship was still suffering immensely.
I
experienced wild and erratic mood swings and I was depressed. Once
again I felt like I couldn't go on with things as they were. I didn't
want to drink, but began to feel that I was at high risk because I
needed to have relief from the intense symptoms I was experiencing.
At
this time, an amazing thing occurred and another woman in Alcoholics
Anonymous gave me a book to read called "The Missing Diagnosis" by Dr.
Orion C. Truss. It was here that I found the much needed relief I
looked for. This book led me to several other books and a new doctor.
Over a period of time I pieced together the missing parts of the
puzzle.
Not only had I discovered relief for myself, but I had also discovered why Alcoholics Anonymous is so unsuccessful.
What is it that Alcoholics Anonymous and traditional rehabilitation is missing?
Alcoholics
Anonymous was formally developed in 1935. Since that time we have
learned an astounding amount of information and have a much better
understanding of the addiction process. Scientific evidence now tells us
that alcoholism, or any addiction, has its roots in imbalanced
or depleted neurotransmitters in the brain,
nutritional deficiencies and allergy. Yet AA and 12 step programs have
not grown or expanded their treatment approach in any way. With all
other physical diseases, we consistently update and change our treatment
approaches as we learn more information about the terrain; but that is
not the case with alcoholism or addiction, it remains stubbornly stuck
in the past.
One of the most destructive problems with Alcoholics
Anonymous and other 12 step treatment programs is that they refuse to
even look at new scientific evidence, listen to new insights or hear
anything that contradicts the original AA principles, and continue to
treat addiction with an outdated model that besides being sexist,
shaming, abusive, cult like and patriarchal isn’t and never has been
very successful. What’s even worse is that they rationalize and justify
their failure by blaming the victim.
Alcoholics Anonymous and the
12 steps are based on the beliefs of a Christian
evangelical cult called the Oxford Group that
attempts to control people’s behavior through guilt, mind control and
shaming them into submission rather than a real medical treatment that
focuses on the true physiological roots of alcoholism. These distasteful
practices have resulted in the largest part of the addicted population
to fail to maintain sobriety and/or take issue with the current
treatment approach and often walk away.
Most people do
not succeed in a 12 step program because it is
an ineffective program that does not address the true root of
alcoholism, but AA does not consider that as a failure of the program.
Instead they blame the alcoholic with statements like “they haven't hit
their bottom yet,” “they're in denial,” or “they didn't work the
program.” When in reality, that has nothing to do with it.
People
leave or don’t succeed with AA and 12 step treatment programs for a
variety of very valid and healthy reasons such as they are uncomfortable
with: the powerlessness concept; the “group think” mentality; the
religious aspect; the abusive aspect; the rigid, dogmatic structure; the
shaming; the blaming; the sexist aspect; the patriarchal aspect; the
archaic aspect; the demeaning aspect; the abusive criticizing on the hot
seat; and the cult-like brainwashing methods to name a few. Then since
there are no other treatment options available to them, they return to
drinking.
People do not succeed with AA and the 12 step program
because it does not address the true root of alcoholism. For successful
recovery from alcoholism and long-term sobriety without intense cravings
and discomfort there must be biochemical repairs.
Biochemical
repairs consist of restoring balance to the neurotransmitters and body
chemistry through diet, environment and nutritional supplementation.
Conditions like food allergies or sensitivities, hypoglycemia,
hypothyroidism, candida overgrowth, chemical sensitivities and
nutritional deficiencies, which alter neurotransmitters need to be
addressed.
The alcoholic cannot continue to smoke, eat sugar,
drink coffee and eat grains because they keep the addiction process
active. They must stabilize their blood sugar, replenish depleted nutrients and make major life style
changes.
When I began to make biochemical repairs, all the
symptoms that had plagued me for most of my life and led to my drinking
disappeared. The depression, anxiety, irritability, cravings to drink
or drug etc. etc. were all miraculously gone.
If you look around
any Alcoholics Anonymous meeting, you will see that most of them are
smoking, drinking coffee and eating donuts or some other form of sugar
like a fiend. Everyone I knew struggled to stay sober and to live
life. The negative symptoms I lived with previously are pretty much the
norm for alcoholics in recovery.
So I was very excited with
what I had learned and wanted to share my new found knowledge with the
people I loved in AA. To my surprise they didn't want to hear it. They
rolled their eyes and walked away, criticized me, told me I'd get
drunk, shut me out and eventually withdrew and distanced themselves from
me when the couldn't manipulate me back into the brain washing.
The
only person who didn't tell me I'd get drunk or withdraw from me was my
counselor from rehab. I continued to stay in touch with him off and on
for many years after leaving Alcoholics Anonymous. He never embraced
the biochemical knowledge I shared with him, but I was very grateful
that he didn't turn his back on me.
I had quit smoking and once
this happened I could no longer stand to sit in a room full of cigarette
smoke, because it would give me headaches, breathing difficulties etc.
Back in those days smoking was allowed in public places and every AA
meeting was full of so much cigarette smoke you couldn't see across the
room. The distance between me and other AA members continued to grow
larger and larger until I no longer fit in at all and didn't feel the
need to be there anymore. Slowly I began to stop going to meetings
until eventually I gave them up all together.
Cravings to drink
DID NOT return. As a matter of fact, drinking was no longer an issue at
all in my life. I didn't think about it or struggle with it, period.
It's
been over 24 years now and I continue to be sober without cravings. I
haven't attended a meeting since sometime in 1990. I went back to
college and picked up a couple degrees in psychology and counseling and
now dedicate my life to educating anyone who will listen about the
importance of biochemical issues in regard to addiction and mental
health.
Alternative treatment centers that approach alcoholism
from a biochemical viewpoint, as I have described above, have a success
rate of about 75 percent and even as high as 84 percent.
If you'd
like to learn more about how
to quit drinking without AA and how I used the
biochemical approach to maintain long-term sobriety, I share my story
and protocol in my book Get Sober
Stay Sober: The Truth About Alcoholism. Alternatively, you may want to take a look at my Clean
and Sober for Life Jump-Start Program for a more complete program. If you
need a more personal touch, I am also available for sobriety coaching.
Some AA members like to email me and vehemently defend
their program and attack me. To you I say this: First and foremost,
your behavior is case in point for illustrating the wide depth of
problems within Alcoholics Anonymous. No one has forced you to read this
page. At any time you are completely free to hit your back button and go
elsewhere. I don't read these types of mails, nor do I respond to them,
so you are wasting your time. I'm not here to convince anyone to leave
AA. If AA works for you, then by all means keep doing what you're
doing.
However, if it doesn't work for you or if you've hit a wall, then perhaps you need something in addition to or instead of.
I'm
also not here to try and convince anyone not to attend AA. As I
mentioned earlier, there are some definite benefits to the 12 step
program, especially in the early phases of recovery, and if you're one
of those people who find Alcoholics Anonymous to be a good fit, but
still can't achieve sobriety, then perhaps you need a combination of
both.
As the saying goes, "Take what works and leave the rest."
I am here to provide the alcoholic with the facts so they can make the choice that is best for them.
If
traditional treatment centers incorporated biochemical repairs into
their program, then the problems with Alcoholics Anonymous would not be
quite so large and we could probably see amazing results.